We've all done things we're not proud of. Maybe you spent half the month's food budget on a new coat, didn't get to your son's soccer match before the second half, put your mom in a nursing home, or, when the cat's yowling got on your nerves, you let him outside where he was promptly hit by a car. It's tough to forgive yourself, and you may think your friends and family would never forgive you either if they knew half of what you do. Unfortunately, you know the whole. And the sheer weight of it rocks you with guilt and sinks you with shame. Probably one of the few people who can tell you how to forgive yourself is psychologist Fred Luskin, PhD, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project. For years, Luskin has conducted studies and workshops on forgiveness, working with men who've cheated on their wives, kids who've dumped their parents, and a whole lot worse.